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Her Green Room Classic: Today Is a New Day

10/11/2017

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​How often have you heard that phrase, “Today is a new day!” It’s pretty common, but how often do we forfeit what that truly means? Too often a new day comes, and we don’t enjoy it to the fullest potential because we are trying to walk out the blessings of a “new day” while still trying to carry the weights of yesterday.

I know it is easier said than done, but with God it is possible to put away yesterday’s weight.

Don’t allow the enemy of your soul to rob you of your new day! The devil’s objective is to kill, steal, and destroy any way possible. He wants to kill your will to walk it out, he wants to steal your joy, and he certainly wants to destroy any plans you have to succeed in your walk with the Lord.

Your past does not define who you are. Your mistakes are not who you are. Through the strength of God you can stand in the truth of who you are. When we choose to do that, we then can put off every weight that sets out to hinder us and we can march on knowing that we serve a God of second chances. We serve a God of “new beginnings,” and a God who is able to meet us where we are.

"Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God" (Hebrews 12:1-2, NIV).

Make a choice to enjoy the blessings of our “new day.” Maybe everything is not going how we planned. Maybe everything is not perfect and this day may not be our best day . . . but God is good even on our worst day.

I like to think on these simple truths:
  1. Think about the faithfulness of God. Let’s remind ourselves that God has always come through in the past and He will again!
  2. Take off the weight. As a child of God, the victory is ours. The fight has already been fought and the price has been paid for us. If we believe that, then we have confidence and the will to embrace our “new day.” Today, let’s make a choice to put aside bad attitudes, remove lies and replace them with truth, recognize distractions, and remove negativity from our life...
  3. Run. Yes, run! There is no time to sit idle. You may trip and sometimes fall, but get up and keep going. Keep running, and as the Scripture says, “. . . fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith” (Hebrews 12:2, NIV)! What He starts, He finishes. He never said the road would not be hard at times, but He promised to be faithful to His children.

Dear friend, sometimes we have to say it out loud. Sometimes, we need to declare the truth audibly—out loud, so we can hear it.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”
​(Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).


God is so faithful. Prayers and blessings to each of you as we run this race together!

This article was borrowed and can be read at Her Green Room.

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Lisa and her husband Steven are lead pastors at Faith Assembly, Winterville, N.C., and have been in full-time ministry for the last 15 years. She is a credentialed minister with the Assemblies of God. Lisa's heart and passion is to see women set free to live their lives in victory as they discover the power available to them through the blood of Jesus. Lisa leads Faith Women, and shares in this journey of life to see women who adore God become all that God is calling them to be. Lisa travels and shares real life experiences and biblical truths to congregations, workshops, and conferences. It is her prayer for women to be changed, renewed, and refreshed in His presence. Lisa loves being a mom to two teenage daughters and is married to the love of her life! She also shares regular devotions to encourage at www.overcominglife.info, and would love to connect with you today!

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Is It So Wrong to Want Rewards?

8/29/2017

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In December, a dear woman in our church handed me a tin of Christmas treats she'd made for our family, and as I received them, I felt tears immediately welling up in my eyes.

She didn't know and couldn't have known, but I had been in need of encouragement--even something as simple as a tin of cookies, something that expressed I'd been thought of and that I was appreciated

I'd actually been fighting against this desire for weeks, fighting against it because I felt it had crossed a line into craving approval and validation. Craving reward. Maybe even a little self-glory. The craving was strong in its temptation; my faith felt fragile and weak.

Is it so wrong to want reward? Sometimes I just want to know from God that what I'm doing for Him matters. Sometimes I want to see the fruit of my labor and get to rejoice at how the Lord is moving in and around me. But then sometimes a desire for reward is more sinister. I feel in my bones the lure of applause, money, worldly success, comfort, ease, and self-glory. All temporary, all things that might provide immediate gratification.

So in regard to encouragement, which is it: right or wrong?
Read the Answer

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My name is Christine Hoover. I am a church planting pastor's wife, a mom, an author, and a speaker who loves encouraging women with gospel truths. You can read more about me and what I write about here. 
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How do I respond when people leave our church?

8/22/2017

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Question: How do you handle it when people leave your church? 
"[Since we started our church plant], we've had 3-4 families move on who were very close to us. We consider them friends and of course want them to worship where they feel called. However, it still really hurts, especially for 
my husband. How do you navigate this journey? It is awkward and sometimes I don't know whether to reach out to the wife or just let it go. It is a lot to go through as a family when you realize people that you labored with will no longer be there. And then the congregation questions us as to where these people have gone or why they have left."

My Answer:
I want to address this question in a way that will be beneficial for everyone in the church, whether you are a pastor's wife or a person leaving or considering leaving your church...
Read the answer here

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Christine Hoover is a church planting pastor's wife, a mom, an author, publisher of Grace Covers Me and a speaker who loves encouraging women with gospel truths. You can read more about her and what she writes about here.
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The Reality of Comparison

8/15/2017

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"We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise” (2 Corinthians 10:12).
Do you have any "if only's" in your thought life? Are they holding you back, keeping you from moving forward? Beth Holmes shares with us the follies of comparison and ways to overcome our tendencies to compare.


​“If only our church had a full-time children’s minister …"

“If only our women’s ministry could find its footing …”
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“If only our people would volunteer more …”

The expression “if only” is a great temptation in ministry. If only everything and everyone would line up, then we could do what another church is doing. If only we could convince our people to do the right steps, then we could be like another church...read more

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.Beth Holmes is a minister's wife and mom living in Owensboro, Kentucky, who was diagnosed with breast cancer in December 2014. After spending a year learning to be brave through cancer treatments, God is teaching her again how to celebrate in 2016. Join her journey at bethholmes.wordpress.com. This blog was posted on June 15, 2017 at Flourish.

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Three Actions to Take When Others Disappoint You

8/8/2017

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The phrase, “Don’t let the disappointment in a few keep you from loving the many,” comes from a chapter in my book, 10 Things Every Minister’s Wife Needs to Know. In recent days, I’ve gone through a season of disappointment, and I’ve had to remind myself of my own words. And unfortunately, I am pretty sure I will find myself there again in the future. You may say, well, that’s just ministry life. But it’s not. It’s everyone’s life, regardless of the occupation of your husband.

As minister’s wives, we can be tempted to withdraw or retreat, become bitter, give up or be resentful of hurts. But when we do that, we end up lonely and isolated, and we miss the blessings of the “many” God has called us to serve and serve with. We sometimes determine in our hearts we will never allow ourselves to be put in that position again—we determine not to be vulnerable or transparent ever again. We tell ourselves it’s not worth the effort or the hurt. Unfortunately, that gets us nowhere in the eyes of others, or most importantly, with the Lord.

So how are we to respond when we feel that keen disappointment in others? In my recent season, I deliberately decided to respond exactly opposite of how I felt on the inside. Rather than choosing to withdraw (my natural inclination) and retreat, I chose to take advantage of an opportunity to honor and commend others.
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Rather than focusing on my personal disappointment,..read more

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Jeana Floyd is the author of An Uninvited Guest: One Woman’s Journey from Cancer to Hope and 10 Things Every Minister's Wife Needs to Know. She and her husband, Ronnie W. Floyd, have been married for 39 years. They have two sons and seven grandchildren. Jeana celebrated 26 years as a cancer survivor on January 15, 2016. She has ministered to countless cancer patients and their families these past 26 years. More from this author

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When God's Will Doesn't Go Your Way, Part 1

7/4/2017

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The smell was more nauseating than anything else. Coupled with the constant motion of the water and the seaweed wrapped around him, the man expected nothing but death.

Fish.
Rotten fish.
Stinking fish.
Live fish.
Dying fish.

Man.
Entangled man.
Rotting man.
Live man.
Dying man.

How did he end up in this place? Why didn’t God just let him die in the sea? Why did he have to end up here to die a slow, painful, agonizing death?

The gastric juices kept burning his flesh. Open sores were appearing all over his body. He found no way to be comfortable, no way to rest. Why couldn’t he just die?

He found a piece of wood and rested as much as possible. If he laid across it just right, then maybe he wouldn’t have to tread through so much water and dead fish.

He drifted to sleep.

He heard the voice. Plain, simple. No details yet, but that didn’t matter. He heard God speak!
Once again he felt the excitement! God needed him!
God in heaven had a job for me. I am to prepare to take a message!

Just like the prophets of old, Elijah and Elisha!
Maybe someone will write a scroll about the things God will do through me!...read more

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Dorinda Blann and her husband Rusty have been in ministry for over 30 years, currently as lead pastors at Searcy, Arkansas, First Assembly of God. Dorinda also serves the church as the Ministries Coordinator and is passionate about missions, discipleship; she oversees leadership training, and ministry departments... "In all honesty, I am just one big goofy ADHD mess that God in His sovereignty chooses to use, which is everyday proof that His strength is made perfect in our (my MANY) weaknesses! My theme is to live out John 10:10 €”and live the abundant life for His glory! Dorinda and Rusty have three daughters, one son, a daughter-in-law, son-in-law, and three adorable grandchildren.
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The Healthy Marriage Check Up

5/2/2017

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How's your marriage going? If you're like my husband and me, sometimes we get on a crazy cycle, a merry-go-round of good times, bad times, and just blah times...you get the picture, a very living organism. Being pastor and wife is a very unique dynamic in married life. It's almost like adding an extra dimension to being married and extending the atmosphere of that marriage into the church. All the more reason for us to take extra care in working to keep our ministry marriages healthy. For the next few weeks we're going to discuss marriage in ministry with the intent of encouraging you.
Here we go!
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 Marriage… what a wonderful, complicated thing. First, let me say I’m not a marriage expert but I’ve survived marriage and even thrived in marriage through seasons of amazing blessings and seasons of devastation. As wonderful as marriage is, it’s not always easy. I’ve learned some lessons the hard way and other lessons were just sweet love notes from heaven.

No matter where your marriage is today, it can flourish and be an example to others with God’s help. I didn’t say perfection. It may be as simple as changing your perspective! Growing up, I always admired couples that showed affection. Couples who held hands or men who opened car doors for their wives. This became my example of a healthy marriage. It was the romantic's view on marriage. I soon learned, after becoming an adult, that the people I deemed as healthy were some of the most unhealthy. Although holding hands was and is sweet, it doesn’t sustain you.

  1.  Treat marriage as a living organism...​read more


Ashley Simmons has been married to her wonderful husband, Tim, for 18 years. They have served in ministry together since the day they were married. Tim and Ashley have 2 beautiful children, Cole 14 and Kennedy 13. Tim serves as Executive Pastor at Life Fellowship Church in Olive Branch, MS and Ashley serves on staff at the Guest Services Director. Her hobbies include "having two teenagers! It is quite time consuming." Ashley loves to write, share her story and minister to women. Before coming to Life Fellowship, Tim and Ashley traveled and spoke on the restoration of marriages. The tour was called, For Love For Life. The enemy wants to destroy the family but they have seen God turn ashes in beauty! Read more from Ashley at www.ashleylsimmons.com. This post appeared on Bridgette Tomlin's Sanctuary Ministry Wives blog on 02/13/17.
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Treat Yourself

4/18/2017

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I remember a time in my life when I would literally be sick to my stomach when I tried to buy something for myself. Ever been there? We were pastoring in a small town, not making much money, living in the parsonage, and have a growing family. It was hard enough buying the things my family needed, let alone buying something I might need or even want. My daughter in elementary school even noticed momma had a problem.
We can get ourselves into a terrible shape if we don't watch it. It took a supportive husband, small steps of buying, encouragement from friends, and asking the Lord for help.

Liz Sarno recently wrote a blog post on this subject for Leading It and Loving It. She said, "I’ve gone on quite a few shopping expeditions, where instead of buying anything for myself I’ve spent my money on gifts for my family. I realized that I would pick out some things I liked, then systematically put them all back and replace them with things for my husband and kids. This is not a bad thing in and of itself, but after a few trips where I went home with nothing for myself I realized something. For a few months I had decided that I didn’t need anything and it was more important to be a blessing to my family, so I talked myself out of doing something for me. It is better to give than to receive, this is true, but it’s also ok to take care of ourselves. While being a blessing to my family is actually a good thing, I had to remember that it’s important to treat myself every once in awhile, too...It’s a common trap for women in general to put everyone and everything above ourselves, especially for us mommas, let alone women in ministry who have the added pressure we put on ourselves to take care of everyone in our lives first." 
The Word says to cast all our cares on Him, for He cares for us. I always knew that but I let legitimate cares of life blind me. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has experienced something like this. Do you feel guilty about treating yourself? Do you get sick to your stomach when you have to buy something you need? Let Liz's words of wisdom sink in and help you find freedom...read more
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Protect Yourself

4/11/2017

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Your schedule is on overload, and your mind is on overdrive, and if you don’t get some relief quickly, you might just pop like a balloon. You’ve allowed yourself to buy into the misconception that you need to be all things to all people and that your “calling” requires you to work continuously from day to night because if you don’t do it, then who will? And as you read this, you are wondering if there is a way to manage and sustain this pace.
Let me assure you, there is a way. And the way starts with you, is managed by you and is maintained by you.

The “way” begins with you making the decision to say, “I will no longer run myself to exhaustion. I will learn to block out time on my calendar exclusively for family. I will put a schedule in place each week that enables me to both lead and love it.” But you have to make this choice. I can attest to you that no one will do this for you....read more

Linda Seidler is a writer, speaker, leader and pastor and has a strong passion for building the local church. She and her husband, Tim, co-founded The Experience Church in Bridgeport, Ohio, where they lead and pastor together. Linda’s drive is to energize the church to reach its full potential and to develop and strengthen leadership. In her spare time, Linda loves to peruse the local thrift and salvage stores and has an affinity for repurposing existing furniture and items for her home. This blog post was written for Leading and Loving It.
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How to Manage Your Emotions God's Way

3/29/2017

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Our feelings can affect our physical health, often more than we realize. Here’s how to manage your emotions the way God intended.

We all know health isn’t just a physical thing. God created us as holistic beings with a spirit, body and soul. But how many of us truly connect the dots on a daily basis and realize the direct impact our emotions have on our physical health? When we aren’t feeling well, often our instinct is to relate the problem to a physical illness, what we’ve been eating and drinking, or whether we’ve been exercising and getting enough rest. But sometimes the deeper part of the problem—the root of it all—stems from negative emotions that we permit into our life.

So while you’re reading this article, I’m going to ask you to be honest with yourself about the kinds of thoughts and feelings you permit into your life. God wants you to feel strong and healthy. He also wants you around for the long haul. And for many of us, taking better care of ourselves emotionally needs to be just as important as how we care for our physical needs.

Seeing the Symptoms But Not the Problem...read more


Joyce Meyer is one of the world’s leading practical Bible teachers. A New York Times best-selling author, her books have helped millions of people find hope and restoration through Jesus Christ. Through Joyce Meyer Ministries, she teaches on many topics, with a particular focus on the mind, mouth, moods and attitudes. Joyce has authored nearly 100 books, including her latest, Trusting God Day by Day (FaithWords). For more information, visit joycemeyer.org. This blogpost was written for Charisma Magazine.
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