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Family Mealtime: Part 2

6/17/2014

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Mealtime Satisfaction
by Casey Gibbons

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    It came on suddenly. Just ten days after my wedding reality hit: My husband wanted to eat every day AND he thought I would be providing the food! Me. Not his mama. Not the school cafeteria. Not the fast food places. The non-cooking girl who was so busy doing other things that she never learned how to cook is supposed to provide meals. The flash of shock was soon sobered when I realized that I was hungry too. 

    And to add to the situation, we started having children before I truly conquered cooking so then I was dealing with not only what to make but also how to avoid chaos at the table. I had idealistic images in my mind of happy, thankful children gathered peacefully around the table while their parents shared life insights for 30 minutes. But all I saw in front of me were wriggly, talkative, complaining, fast-eating little people that made big messes and weren’t ready for meaningful conversation. This is not what I had envisioned with delicious meals and well-mannered children. 

     So, I decided to do what any sensible woman would do...I cried a lot then I chose to conquer this thing called mealtime. In my journey to fight hunger and attain happiness in the home, there are two chicken nuggets of insight I want to pass on for those who need them:

1. Make a Simple Meal Plan with 10 Dinner Recipes. All you have to do is learn ten dinner meals to the best of your ability and use them over two weeks. Choose five categories and two meals for each category. For example, two meals that are American, two meals that are Italian, two meals that are Mexican, two meals that are crockpot, and two meals that are hearty soup/salad/bread. Voila. These will carry you for five nights a week for two weeks. The other two nights a week are for pizza, dates, or carryout. (And, of course, the ever-rewarding backup of “cereal night” is a lifesaver if you get in a pinch.) 

     Pick whatever your heart desires! Choose according to your family's needs and time. Go online. Look at cooking books. Ask friends. Just focus on learning 10 main meals. Once you have this down, you are set. No need to think of 365 dinner plans. Just rotate 10. And when life changes and you are in another season with more time, you can add to your list. But for now, there is a set rotating plan with delicious food you made five nights a week.

     And what about breakfast, lunch, and snacks? These are easier to figure out. You can rotate those every week. For instance, every Monday for us is oatmeal and boiled eggs for breakfast. Cream cheese/jam wraps are for lunch with carrots and ranch, chips and applesauce. And snack is a granola bar. The same goes on for the other days of the week. Breakfast, lunch and snack are the same on certain days every week while dinner rotates every two weeks. After years of this plan, nobody has become bored and I can rest assured breakfast, lunch and dinner are covered! 

2. Make Mealtime a Priority. Mealtime is primetime! One of my favorite poems is by family activist Nancy Campbell that implores, “Where can you communicate while you eat? Where can you enjoy real fellowship sweet? Where can you laugh with friends who are neat? At the table…Where can your children learn to sit still? Acquire eating habits that won’t make them ill? Be taught good manners of which some have nil? At the table…” All this and more unfolds at the table together. 

     Once mealtime was determined to be an integral part of my family, the manners and methods followed. If there is school, work, or extra-curricular activities during dinner then we make plans for other meals such as lunch or breakfast together. At the very least, we look at the weekly calendar and find at least 3 mealtimes we are all together. It literally took our family a few years to conquer table time. But the optimistic side to that is while there isn’t perfection, we do enjoy meals now. 

Some practical things we do to bring peace around the plates are as follows:

  1. 1. Create a comfortable atmosphere with lighting, place settings, and music  
  2. 2. Wait to eat until all have joined the table then give genuine thanks for the food
  3. 3. Have adults make their plates first then have the older kids make the younger kids’ plates
  4. 4. Consider having a minute or two of the silent game so everyone can calm down and prepare to eat peacefully 
  5. 5. Set the first few minutes for the adults to chat and the kids to listen while they eat
  6. 6. Train for manners but do not use meals to lecture or bring up conflict (that would make anyone sick!) 
  7. 7. Ask meaningful conversation questions and have everyone listen to the answers
  8. 8. Plan to have everyone stay at the table at least 20 minutes (although there are times I allow the toddler or baby to color or play so the rest can finish the meal). 
  9. 9. Make sure the seats are comfortable for little ones. This helps cut back on the wriggles. 
  10. 10. Have a dinner helper that gets up and down so mom doesn’t do all the work
     Yes, learning a simple meal plan and prioritizing dinner has warded off hunger and added happiness to the buffet of life in the Gibbons home.  So if you crave the same in your house, just take it one bite, or rather, one night at a time and soon you will be satisfied!

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   Casey celebrates family as she mothers five daughters and has a baby on the way! She and her husband, Scotty, have worked with young people from junior high to college for the past 20 years in ministry leadership. She invites you to share life with her at ReaLifeCasey.BlogSpot.com.

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Family Mealtime: Part 1

6/10/2014

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We’ve been on vacation this week. Nothing big—just some family time in Branson, hanging out with the kids and grandkids. We love spending time together, cooking meals, playing games, and splashing in the pool.  While dining in one of our favorite restaurants, I observed a family at a table not far from ours. What caught my attention was the mother on her cell phone, totally detached from her family. The Mom! It wasn’t the first time to see such a sight. I notice it all the time…adults and children alike self-absorbed in their own little techy worlds, all the while failing to interact with those in their very presence.  Ok, I’m on my soapbox! But I think there is validity in my soapbox (of course I would, it’s my soapbox), especially in the home of the pastor where life’s demands and expectations are already high.  

This month the focus of Refresh will be the minister’s family.  Because I grew up in a pastor’s home and have now raised a pastor’s family, I have come to believe that one of the most important elements of the family is mealtime. Mealtime has always been one of my favorite times of the day. I love to come together after our paths have taken us different directions. We retreat from the hectic day and savor the sweetness of life given by God. It’s a time to acknowledge one another and share the events of the day. It’s a time to recognize efforts and encourage the heart that is downcast. I don’t mean to imply that dinner time should look like a TV series from the ‘60’s, but I do believe that it should be a meaningful time. And yes, it takes effort. Here are some ideas that might help you establish this important time in your family.

  1. Establish a dinner tradition with your family by first discussing what that should look like to your family.

  2. Turn off the TV. Period.

  3. Turn off cell phones and place away from the table. When we were pastors, our congregation was taught that dinnertime was family time and calls would be returned later.

  4. Stay positive. Use the time to uplift and encourage each other rather than talking about things our children didn’t do or should have done. Ask open-ended questions—questions that require more than a “yes” or “no” response.

  5. Pray for a missionary. Keep missionary prayer cards in a decorative container and include a missionary in your prayer.

  6. Don’t rush. It’s been proven that eating more slowly aids in digestion. Check out this site: http://longevity.about.com/od/lifelongnutrition/a/eat_slow.htm  

  7. Use good manners. It’s so important for children to learn how to pass food, say, “Please” and “Thank you”. And it doesn’t hurt us adults either.

  8. Ask to be excused. When children are finished eating, it’s polite for them to ask to be excused.  Teach them to take their plates with them, properly dispose of any leftovers, and place in the sink or dishwasher.

By all means this list is not exhaustive, but hopefully it gives you an idea of ways you can make mealtime an important part of the minister’s home. If you have family traditions that make dinner special, I would love to hear about it. In the meantime, bon appetite!


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